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Grade schoolers begin to discover and establish their own personality at such a young age, but parents should always be present to monitor. If you need to discipline your elementary student, shouting is highly discouraged because it can lead to long-term developmental problems and relationship issues.

Below are better ways to teach your child without losing your cool.

1. Provide rewards

Giving rewards is a great way to encourage your grade schooler to establish good habits and avoid trouble. Research showed many times how providing incentives is a recommended approach that leads to productive and highly disciplined individuals, compared to punishment. A study published on PsychCentral.com showed how children who continue to be physically punished during childhood develop behaviour problems later in life.

2. Give choices and consequences

Let your child decide on certain arguable matters so he can control the results or consequences of his own actions. Provide the decision and expected results beforehand such as telling your grade schooler that if he does not finish his vegetables at dinner, he will not get any dessert. Your child will learn how his choices can lead to certain benefits or drawbacks.

3. Give a serious talk

Ask to talk to your child in a private and quiet area where you can tell him about your specific expectations and if he disappointed you in any way. Indicate the problem and ask your child what he think is the best approach. Talking to your child in a solemn and serious manner will encourage him to communicate effectively. Allow your grade-schooler to express how he feels about the situation and even offer a solution.

4. Send your child to his room

Time-outs or ordering your child to go to his bedroom will allow you to cool off and avoid shouting as well as let the grade schooler ponder on the issues. Instead of yelling at your kid, let time pass so you have better control over your feelings and can approach him in a decent and respectful manner.

5. Deprive certain benefits

Instead of yelling, remove certain things that your grade schooler regularly enjoys such as playing video games, watching TV or reading comic books or magazines. Take away these items temporarily to show them that their unpleasant behavior will have consequences, without hurting them verbally. Professor Timothy Verduin at NYU Langone Medical Center said in a report published by the Wall Street Journal that parents can discipline their children by taking away privileges.